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I hope HWD's move and thereafter goes smoothly.
I try to put off procrastination!
Smooth? I don't think it will be. But we've avoided yelling at each other so far (which definitely would not have been the case with my ex) so that's good.
When I moved in 2018, I started packing 6 months beforehand ... and still had to scramble at the end. Moving is a nightmare and thankfully, for me, not recurring.
Perhaps HWD should be having the anxiety dreams.
I agree that moving is a nightmare. π¬
I'm sure he's feeling some anxiety, but I think it's the nature of ADHD that one is easily distracted away from negative emotions. I've been following an ADHD forum in an attempt to achieve greater understanding of the way his brain works...
I sometimes have dreams that I forgot that I had to catch a flight to go home that very day but I haven't packed anything so I'm rushing to stuff my suitcase. No bueno, yo.
I'm having company over next weekend but I haven't done anything to make the house presentable π
That sounds very similar to my dream!
I will say that having HWD over regularly has already caused me to be a bit less of a slob during the last year, which is a good thing. Perhaps I shall improve even more with him around all time.
Thankfully, I am married to a bit of a neatnick. He tolerates some of my smaller messes/disorganized spaces, but every now and again I will dig in and clean/organize something that really needs it. Part of me thinks I'll just leave the final purge to the kids when we die in our current house. But hubs says he thinks there will be one post-retirement move to live all on one level (though I almost never go to the basement as it is). Sending good wishes for the move. I hope everything turns out ok.
I'm guessing there will be one more move for me, too (it was pretty dumb to buy a house with bedrooms on the second floor, at age 57). It's pretty hard to imagine consolidating all of my things enough to move from a house to an apartment...which is why it would be good to work on it some now instead of waiting until that moment.
Iβm going to give away my electric weed whacker (about 15 years old and has the older type battery). Too heavy and I donβt use it very often. Iβve been real happy with the EGO lawn mower, it works great on my tiny city lot (which only takes 15-20 minutes to mow).
Last time I moved I did the planning and driving (6 hour drive) while GF followed the truck with a carload of stuff. The second trip I did solo, and getting all the remaining stuff into the back of the truck was like loading your second stall. The first trip was furniture and boxes, all squared off, planned, easy. Second trip, odd stuff, bins (some with no top), lamps, exercise bike/gear.... the back of the truck was a disaster, lol. Thankfully, was able to back right up to the front door and extend the ramp so the unloading was much easier (moved from 4th floor condo to current house). Fun times.... π P.S. I did not see that first pic coming.... lol. π
We are going to be moving a LOT of "odd stuff", as far as I can tell so far. LOL.
My anxiety and procrastination unfortunately not in dreams but in reality. Probably has to do with ongoing neurological issues from back injury. For example this week had a bill to pay yet looked at checkbook on desk for a week
Sorry about that...I can be somewhat the same way, procrastinating on the simplest things. Which I think is why my dream state reflects it.
(For a second I thought you'd watermarked your garage pic!) I don't think I'd even know if I had a recurring dream... I have the vaguest dreams possible... I know I dream but I can't remember anything any more. I'm always amazed at the novels some people dream!
One thing I learned when I moved into my current place is that a moving service is worth every penny!!!!
I have to admit those Target yard waste bags that say "Smartly" sometimes fool me for a sec, too! Haha.
I was very happy to have moving guys to deal with the big stuff last time. For the rest of my things, the gradual approach of packing up a few boxes a day felt more manageable. I'm now a big fan of having at least a month overlap where you are operating out of both the old and the new home and I will try to arrange things that way again whenever the next move happens.
Moving is always stressful
Agreed.
No matter how ya slice it.....moving is anxiety provoking. Even the best laid plans can go awry. Hopefully you can look back on all this with a sigh of relief ~
Yes...example one...last night he was going through the online check-in process for the moving truck and suddenly noticed that his confirmation email called for him to pick up the truck in TAMPA FLORIDA. Luckily U-Haul has operators on duty even at 11 pm and they were able to straighten out the reservation for him.
@smartasswoman ohhhhhhh Lordy....lol. Thankful....that a human was available to address it.
Yes. I was briefly hypnotized by that expanding triangle. πΆ
I can see the two themes in your dreams. (did that just accidentally rhyme?)
Great garage pictorial. Perfect lighting.π
And about that last part (as I pictured the mattress duck-taped to your roof), it seems complex and... more long-termish.
Now you've put a bug in my head about moving.
Can you shut down your dreams? The vivid ones hang on to me. π€
Yes, and this one is weird...
It involves buffet tables that I never get to sample. They're usually large events where family, friends, or complete strangers have gathered. And no matter how many times I've tried, I've never managed to taste any of the food. I've come close on a few occasions, but that's it.
One thing I've noticed is that I am NOT the organizer of the celebrations.πΆ
Yeah, there's stuff going on there.
I used to read dream analysis books and keep a notepad handy by my bedside so I could quickly write them down. I soon realized that the symbolism in dreams could go on forever. I eventually gave up the books and notes.
But I still have the habit of taking a minute or so every morning to reflect on my dreams and what they might have meant.
They're of no help at all. π
Unless my "Buffet" dreams mean I shouldn't go to bed on an empty stomach? πΆ
That buffet one seems classic, would probably be a good one to talk with a therapist about!!
About it being long-termish...I don't know...I did have thoughts that maybe it would work, but after seeing his apartment this morning I'm doubtful. I mean, I know I can be messy (Garage before picture - exhibit A). But I do make periodic efforts to organize and purge. Like, I might have a pile on top of my file cabinet of things that need to be filed, and those papers might accumulate for hell, a year - but eventually I will find a day to file all of them and also to go through my files and purge stuff that's too old to be relevant anymore.
I just don't see any way for all of his STUFF to find a home in my home long term - and I can't imagine trying to work with him to go through it all and organize/purge.
@smartasswoman
I've been trying to self-analyze, but you know how a less than totally objective POV can blur deniable truths.πΆ
Wait, what, you've yelled at people? π²
Your whole "move thing" has me thinking about my place. I've got to purge, file, organize, and purge some more. But not today. I'm taking a day off, relaxing before I start.
If there were ever a "live cam" I'd watch, it would be you and HWD moving. Just a thought. π
@Paulxx001 no when I referred to yelling in that other comment, it would have been my ex yelling at meβ¦or, at least, getting very testy. Ever seen that classic Friends scene where theyβre moving the couch and Ross is yelling βPivot! Pivot! PIVOT!β ??
HWD seems pretty unflappable so far. Also heβs in way better shape than me and can do things like carry an unwieldy futon down the stairs by himself.
@smartasswoman
Ahhh... gotcha. I wouldn't believe you've ever yelled at anyone... ever. And that's a good thing. π€π
I can visualize THAT type of strength; I used to own it. πΆ
Set up the tripod, put it on "Auto," and cement "The Great HWD Move" into digital posterity. Then post it here. πππ